Advice on Adulting and Doing Scary Life Shit

As you’ll notice immediately from the title of this post, this is not your vibes for the week. I am very sorry. I will talk about my fun adventures and cool stuff maybe in the middle of this week? Idk. But anyway. If you’re only here for the vibes feel free to tune in next week….

I don’t know if any of you reading this has made a big move in their lives lately, but lemme let you in on a little secret………………………………………..

Its HARDDDDDDDDDDD. Especially living in a city where you know exactly 5 people and not really on the “take a bullet for me and let me fart in front of you” level (farting is also as important as a bullet). I’m used to living with my cousins whom I would do all of the above for and my mom being an hour away if I ever need anything. Up here, I have to fend for myself in a lot of ways I didn’t anticipate. So I wanted to do this post giving some tips/advice for anyone moving somewhere far away or just adulting and scared. Mostly NYC stuff cause that’s what I know.

First and foremost, just do it

One of my biggest struggles was actually making the decision to move and following through with it. I wanted to do it so so bad when I was actually in school, but then after I graduated, things got a little too real. I was stuck in the “planning for tomorrow and now tomorrow is today” and I got scared shitless, not gonna lie. I worried about money, if I would ever get a job, if i’d be lonely and sad, if I’d hate it up here, if I’d ever be able to come home again and if I should just move somewhere closer. Ultimately, New York has always been a goal of mine and I just got fed up with myself and within the span of 2 weeks, got a plane ticket, got a place and got outta town. It’s something you can’t overthink, you have to feel it and do it.

You have more stuff than you think and getting it all over there is gonna suck

Packing all of my stuff and moving up here was so sucky. I have way more stuff than I anticipated and it was soo stressful trying to decide what I really needed and what I could live without. My bags were all packed to the GILLS which stressed me out and they were HEAVY, which means getting my carryon out of the overhead bin was a struggle. To be honest though, I wouldn’t change it. I packed enough to where I had everything I needed and none of my luggage got lost, thank god.

DO NOT TRY AND GET AN APARTMENT IMMEDIATELY, I REPEAT, DO NOT

I seriously considered just getting an AirBnB for two weeks and then getting an apartment which is so very stupid and I’m glad I didn’t. If you’re moving to a place thats basically foreign to you and you can’t actually look at the apartments, do not try and get anything immediately. I got an Airbnb for a month and a half and it’s still a struggle trying to find an apartment. Honestly, that’s the most challenging thing for me. Explore areas you like and try to find places there. It also takes forever to get a place because they’re all over the city and working full-time while trying to look at places is craziness. Save yourself the trouble and just get something temporarily.

Dont buy too many groceries, you eat out more often than not

This is really just a New York thing, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve just bought meals because I was doing something till really late after work, or I didn’t have enough time to go home and grab something. Sometimes, it’ll take me an hour to get home from the city, so buying dinner is a necessity unless I wanna eat at 10pm. Whole Foods also just happens to be right next to my work, and they have buffalo cauliflower so in the end I’m eating better than I would at home, thank you.

Dude just take the damn Uber

I love the subway. It’s usually fast and it’s cheap. But sometimes, and I struggle with this, I should’ve just taken an Uber. For example when I wanna wear heels to brunch and everyone on the subway looks at me like I’m the lochness monster. Or when I’m moving my shit out of my apartment and I really can’t carry everything without making another trip. Or when you just really wanna ride in a nice car that’s quiet and doesn’t smell like pee and you don’t have to be around other people. Sometimes you just gotta stop being cheap and give yourself a break from the subway hustle.

 

Determination will get you everywhere

Living in New York can get pretty difficult. From basically getting hit by a car, to moving out of an apartment without a car, to finding out you’ve been walking the wrong way down a street for 30 minutes, this city can be stressful. It definitely has kept me on my toes. One thing that has got me through it is determination, plain and simple. I’ve wanted to be here since I can remember and the more time I spend in New York, the more I fall in love with it. I am determined to be in this place that I love more than I’m willing to let its hardships bring me down. You have to want it more than any of the bullshit the city and life are gonna throw at you whether its a job or an apartment or just trying to thrive. You have to want it, like really bad.

Sometimes your decisions are gonna have to be quick. They’re worth it

I’ve had to make some quick and stressful decisions this past couple months more than I ever have in my life. New York moves so fast and it can be hard to keep up, especially coming from the South. I love it, but it’s a crazy adjustment. You gotta hustle hard and just got with it. I’m not used to making decisions, especially big ones, on the fly. Take a breath and figure it out.

Support Support Support

Lastly, I would not and could not be where I am right this second without the support of my family and friends. Everyone has their own opinions about the decisions you make in your life. I had a bunch of people saying how crazy I was for moving up here with no job.  They were right of course and I knew it, but I had to go and find out for myself. However, I also had my fair share of support. Its the simple things like “wow you’re so brave that’s amazing” or when people get excited with you when you tell them about the cool adult thing you just did. I also wanna brag on my parents as well. My parents are amazing and have always supported anything and everything i have ever wanted to do. I can’t tell you how rad it feels when your mom says she’s proud of you or your dad taking care of something you just can’t do on your own. I’m so lucky to have amazing parents and friends who push me to do better and be better always. If you can support anyone doing anything scary or crazy, do it.

This probably goes without saying because ya’ll probably can tell from my posts but this crazy wild decision is the best one I’ve made in a long time. Right up there with going to LSU and buying that slice of pizza this morning.  It’s been a crazy month but it also feels like I’ve been here forever? Excited for the fun times to come.

Your Weekly Vibes

So I blogged at a new spot today in SoHo aka my favorite area lol. Ate the best cupcakes at Molly’s Cupcakes. Like better than Magnolia, seriously. (ps not vegan just good lol).

Anyways, continuing the never ending saga of the vibes.

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Beauty¡

Not Your Mother’s Beach Babe Texturizing Sea Salt Spray on Amazon $5.91 (2 OZ)

I used to use this sea salt spray from lush that was, I wanna say $15? And when I asked the girl like “hey will this actually give me wavy hair? Like my hair never does that.” She was like “oh yeah totally.” Of course it didn’t and I’m annoyed that she pretended it would. At the same time, how would she know but still. Don’t advocate for things you don’t believe in sheesh. So I used that for a while and liked it okay but after I ran out, I just never got any more of it. I bought this one cause it has some pretty decent reviews and it smelled really good. I’ve given up on finding anything that makes my stick-straight hair wave, HOWEVER, this stuff makes my hair smell so good. When my hair dries, it dies. Its soon flat and feels thin i don’t know why. But this stuff give it life and not a bunch, but a perfect amount of soft volume.

Nexxus Shampoo Emergencee Conditioner on Amazon $16.97

Okay I got this at CVS for too much money and turns out its half that on Amazon ugh. Anyway, I mostly get this because it smells like, actually candy heaven. I feel like after I wash my hair I smell like an expensive goddess who wears like Gucci or something. I would say using this on top of the sea salt spray above leaves me with #hairsmellgoals

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Style¿

Unisa Caytea Velvet Bootie @ DSW $49.99

I just got these cuutteeeee lil booties the other day at DSW cause I have been dying for tiny heeled booties (also note they are called cayteas lol). These KILLEDDDDD my feet the first time I wore them because I have giant gorilla feet and really needed to break them in, so don’t try to wear them all night the first time you wear them lol. I walk everywhere in New York cause I just love looking around the city (and kinda hate the unpredictable train) so finding good shoes that are cute, don’t hurt my feet and aren’t sneakers is so hard. Tbh after a while even my sneakers start to rub. These are so cute because they have a subtle design, they’re flat and closed toe. I’ve already wore them way too much they are now my go-to shoes.

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Also please enjoy this aesthetic pic of me that my friend took in my favorite skirt. (its sold out rn but Forever 21 is good about restocking the good stuff).

Foodies¿¡

Vigilant Eats Superfood Oats Cereal on Amazon $24.80 (6 pack)

In my attempt to find overnight oats at whole foods, I failed, but I failed upwards in that this stuff is so good. It’s gluten free, vegan, and still super tasty. I added a banana cause I’ve been eating this like a bunnnccchh lately. It says you can put cold water in it but uh I recommend regular hot water cause cold sounds gross. I’ve been on a oatmeal kick and this makes it easy, no spices or sugar needed.

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Fitness¿

Heads up!!! PSA!!!!! Pure Barre is doing your first week free ladies!!!! Yeah literally a week of classes for free! I scheduled one every single day next week lol!!! Anyway, I was supposed to do this on Saturday but I was a little tired (and hungover) and rescheduled to Sunday where I vowed to get my life together. Okay so going in she was like, “just a heads up you’re gonna be overwhelmed cause we go super fast just try to listen to me instead of looking other people.” My visual-learner-havin-ass was like oh okay sure. So she was 100% right, it was fast as shit. She said to listen to her, but like most workout classes, they gonna play rave-y EDM music during the entire thing, so I could barely hear her. All in all, however I got a really good workout in. I like the combo of Barre and pilates. My body will most definitely be sore tomorrow (and all of the rest of next week because I signed up for everyday lol).

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Entertainment¡

I’ve been listening to podcasts while at work these days because It calms me and makes the day go faster, I was trying to find one I liked as much as Pod Save America and was failing horribly. Most of the comedy ones were just comedians talking to themselves which is really strange to me or they would just be soo boring that I didn’t wanna listen anymore. I finally started listening to this one and fell in looovvveeeee. I know yawl all probably think I’m a serial killer now, but I promise its so fascinating knowing how these  murders thought, their lives, and how they got to where they are. (okay yeah that sounds weird to be into lol). Listen to one and I swear you’ll believe me,

Un-Success of the Week√

So the only thing I could think of for this was me getting hit(or pushed, nudged?) by a car this week looking at apartments. I’m totally fine btw, but this dude like was not paying attention and like kinda shoved me with his car. I had the right of way cause the little light thing was telling me to go so if I would’ve died I could totally haunt his ass and be justified. I didn’t fall or anything, but obviously my heart came out of my mouth and screamed for dear life like “omg i’ve barely lived plz no!!!” I then proceeded to have, what can only be described as an “adrenaline black out while being awake” and cursed this guy into the next century (i would never do that in my normal life so thats why I say I must have blacked out). Also if you tell this story to your mom, she’ll just say oh my god in a worried tone whereas your friends will laugh hysterically. I will definitely be paying attention more when crossing the street (apparently even crosswalkers need to be on defense who knew).

 

Your Weekly Vibes

For the next couple weeks (while I still live in Bushwhick), this lil place is where I’ll be blogging the vibes. Basically I’m broke Carrie Bradshaw nbd.

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Beauty¡

Dove Dry Shampoo on Amazon $3.74

Not to be dramatic, but Dry Shampoo saved my life. I started using it probably my freshman year of college and fell in love. My hair is just naturally greasy and flat hair is not my friend so before this magic, I was just using good ole baby powder and headbands. The problem with dry shampoo, however, is some of them give you white hair and make it so dry and sticky. I have tried A BUNCH of different ones that smell weird or just don’t even do anything?? Thankfully, Dove doesnt leave white junk (unless you put like a pound of it, which I have done) and it gives my hair amazing volume, so I use it even when its not greasy, just flat af. In other words, my hair is 50% Dove dry shampoo always and forever.

Maybelline Color Correcting Pen @ Target $7.99

Okay so I’m so late to this game because I suck at makeup and really hate having a bunch of crap on my face all the time because breakouts. HOWEVER, this whole color correcting thing is something I can get behind. I put this on for the first time last week and legitimately forgot to put on my concealer after cause hashtag no redness!!!!!! Since this is the first one I’ve ever tried, I can’t say its the best, but its just green stuff so I doubt other ones are much different. (Also maybelline makes my fave mascara so its probably the best tbh).

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Style¿

Stovepipe Pants @ H&M $29.99

Since I have a real people job, I gotta get real people clothes cause I can’t just wear jeans everyday. Literally as soon as I got the job I went to H&M and got these super cute pants. They have that low-key man-pants vibe, which is trendy***~~~ rn and very comfortable (plus real pockets). I’m wearing them with one of my favorite bodysuits that I’ve had for a while but here here and here are some cute ones too. Also wearing my new favorite belt and sneakers of course. And yes I did take this in the bathroom at work because I don’t have a full-length at home and I think it’s weird asking random people to take pictures of you ok!!!!!

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Foodies¿

I know this is weird and i have no idea what possessed me to buy this, but I did. They’re actually good???? They taste the exact same, no joke. I actually starting to wonder what the heck are in these things, but also amazed at how much people stigmatize Vegans and Vegetarians as people who are like missing out on stuff, when really our shit taste the same and i don’t feel like a giant cow after.

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Fitness¿¡

Arms and Abs Blogalites 

Since I live upstairs and I ain’t got no space, its hard for me to find workouts that break a sweat but don’t make a bunch of noise. I’ve done a few of her “apartment friendly” workouts and they usually don’t do much for me, This one, however, I actually broke a pretty good lil sweat. Working out has been a struggle with my current schedule and living situation, but workouts like this definitely help.

Entertainment¡¡

I did a bunch of fun stuff this weekend since I got my first pay check lol and I just wanted a fun crazy weekend cause you need those every now and then.

Friday, I saw the one and only Jim Gaffigan live at the Beacon Theater which was so funny and cool. The theatre is gorgeousss and I felt real fancy in there. One of the things I’m learning to do in New York is spending a lot of time just with myself (just cause friends can sometimes be few and far between in a city like this). So I took my own beautiful ass to this show. It felt a little weird, not gonna lie, but I had fun and I got to see a comedian I would’ve never seen back home.

Saturday was one for the books. I explored SoHo with some cool ladies and I love that area and just wanna live there tbh. The shops were so fancy, we even went into this cool lil market and I almost went full-blown hipster and got some fake glasses (don’t even judge me). Got dinner at this stunning restaurant and bar called Antique Garage. They had chandeliers, a fancy bathroom, and a man was playing the piano in the corner. I wanted to like remember ever second of it forever! Definitely made me fall even more in love with NYC. Then went to a couple clubs, which made me nervous cause I haven’t been clubbing in NYC yet and it looks intensee. Somehow, the people I was with knew some club promoters, so my lucky butt got to enjoy drinks for free (no gross man required thank u). The music was fab and the company was fab-er so a successful Saturday night in the city!

 

Spluuurrrrrggeeeeeee™/ Un-success of the week√

I did Soul-cycle when I first came here last summer and I really liked it. For some reason, this time was a no-go. I guess since I’ve done cycling classes before this one was just sub-par?? I really don’t know, It really gave me a strange cult-y vibe with all the music and shouting and periodical darkness and it just wasn’t long enough for me (only about 15 minutes of straight work). I went in expecting to feel exhausted afterward and that’s just not what I got. Also, there was a weird part where we slowed down and I thought it was about to be over and then we picked it up again, only to stop after – it was strange. All around blah. (so this is un-success and a splurge)

My second un-success was me and color correcting. I got this shade because I have naturally dark circles, no matter how much I sleep (they do look worse when I don’t sleep, however). Not really paying much attention to the colors, like an idiot I got dark ass red and was then promptly informed by my beauty-expert friend that I should’ve gotten a peachy color. I tried to just make it work a couple times, but I just looked sickly and off cause it was just too dark for me. Also, I put it on the first day I got it and didn’t put makeup over it cause i never put makeup on on Sundays. Well I forgot about it and went to do my laundry and as I walked down the street I was getting some kinda weird looks and I was like wtf do I have food on my face??? and then I remembered my eyes looked like they had just finished bleeding which tends to frighten people.