Navigating the Health Craze B.S.

I wanna preface this by saying: I am no health expert. I have no formal training and really just google stuff a lot.

However, I have been doing this whole “health” thing for a hot minute (and by that I mean for years). I wouldn’t say I’ve got it all figured out, but I do have a few tips since I’ve basically tried and tested everything from “I only eat eggs for breakfast every morning” to “I eat protein shakes for dinner and also and entire box of cereal.”

One of the worst, and simultaneously best, things about the internet is having access to MASS amounts of information all time. This is awesome because you can pretend you’re a little sponge and just soak up all the information you can! This is also bad because some of that information is probably not even real, some might say fake news. First tip:

  1. Research and read peoples stuff even if its just opinions

You may be thinking, why would I wanna hear some persons opinions? First of all, you are right now, fool. Secondly, it could help you figure out a problem way quicker and feel more connected in your health journey. For instance, if someone was like yo, when I eat green beans, my ankles swell (I literally made that up don’t @ me) and then when that happens to you, you’re like oh my god me too! You feel like less of a weirdo and also less isolated. Sometimes, being conscience of what you put in your body all of the time can be exhausting, having a connection can help. Which leads me to my next tip:

2. Find Instagrams, blogs and just people who are also trying to be a health human so you can get ideas.

I recently followed this Instagram where the guy just posts healthy versions of desserts. I made some brownies with just banana, almond butter and cacao powder. Not too shabby if I do say so myself. You can get recipes, ideas for new health stuff you’ve never heard of in your life (like Maca that I recently discovered) and feel like there’s another person in the world who also is tired of people asking why they eat kale. Also important is figuring out what works for you. How do you do that?

3. Try it, all of it

I change my diet pretty frequently. Mostly because I stick to the same stuff every week and then I’m like “if I have to look at another asparagus, I’m gonna lose it.” This stems from a childhood obsession with eating stuff repeatedly, that I love, until I hate it. I won’t touch Cliff bars anymore since I used to eat them all the time my freshman year of college (and honestly they’re basically trash anyway). If you wanna change up your diet then do it. If you try something and it’s awful, stop. You might like things you never thought you would, like kale, or you might be like “yeah green beans are still trash, thanks 5 year old me.” Also a common misconception:

4. Your meals don’t have to be Michelin level

No joke, almost everything I eat is 3 ingredients, max. I can’t stand preparing a meal that takes 30 minutes of my life and 10 ingredients (which is why meal kits aren’t really my jam). Meal prep if you wanna be fancy, but reheated food kinda sucks so I always prefer to do minimal cooking. Best advice to get veggies, quick: olive oil, salt, pepper and bake for 25 minutes. Done and done. Last, but most importantly:

5.  Every body is different~~~***~~~*** (see what I did)

I don’t eat lunch. I do interval fasting and then I’ll eat breakfast super late and then have a snack and dinner and that’s my day. Some people think that’s super weird, but I like saving my calories for the end of the day. I’ve tried to spread it out more, but then I just eat more, so its counterproductive. If you like eating a whole bunch as soon as you wake up and then nothing by the end of the day, then do that! There’s really no right answer. Not all health people eat the same thing because not everyone can do that. You can only listen to peoples advice for so long before you gotta just do what feels good to you. Honestly, it might take you a while to figure out what that even is and that’s cool too. Everyday they come out with something saying “this food is bad!!! Never eat it!!!” and two years later they say “chocolate fixes cancer.”

In the end, there’s no magic trick. The internet can say “drink apple cider vinegar and all your problems will disappear,” but thats just not real. It’s consistency and being happy with what your doing above all the random B.S. you get thrown.

 

 

 

Staying Motivated and Getting Through the “Funk”

Ever have those days where you internally “ugh” at everything in your life and you wanna just stay in bed until you’re 30 and will hopefully have everything figured out?

A sum of of my emotions this past week would be a resounding “over it.”

Work?

Over it.

Commuting?

Over it.

Dating?

Over it.

Paying bills?

Over it.

Being an adult and having to do things I don’t wanna do all the time without crying or throwing a fit?

Over.It.

I like to call this the “funk” and let’s just say the weather this week has definitely matched my mood. So how do I get out of it and return to normal again? Here are some tips.

  1. Recognize it

Sometimes, I’ll get in the “funk” because of stupid things and just wanna give up on everything. Suddenly, everything is questionable in my life and its just a scary spiral of self-doubt. Is my life actually trash? No doofus, your life is fine, it’s your emotions that need to get it together. Lately it’s just been me putting pressure on myself to be at a certain point in my career. Everyone moves at different paces in their lives and there’s no “certain time” to have accomplished anything. Take a step back and remember it’s just a feeling. Also, probably stop looking at blogger Instagrams where all they do is travel with their friends (not real life guys, sorry).

2. Wallow if needed (a little)

Sounds counter productive, but feeling sad/mad/annoyed about something for a little while can make you feel so much better after. Yes, there’s no real reason I should feel that way because I have ___ or ____ and I’m so lucky, but that doesn’t mean my feelings aren’t valid. It could be worse, of course, but don’t beat yourself up about being a human. No one can be happy all of the time.

3.  Do your version of “a hot bath”

This could be literally taking a hot bath, or maybe going to a yoga class, or watching some Netflix with wine, or hanging out with a friend. Mine happens to be writing (hence this post) and watching one of my favorite movies. This is just your idea of something to relax you, make you feel good, and forget everything for a while; whatever that may be.

4. Reset your goals

Sometimes, the “funk” happens because you’ve just been floating through life and you’ve been neglecting the goals you set for yourself. Remember why you started and think of what you could be doing in order to get closer to those goals. Living in the moment is great, but also remember where you wanna be and what steps you still need to take in order to get there.

 

With all the social media you’re exposed to, sometimes you can feel like you’re not where you should be in your life. I sometimes get down because I’m not making X amount of money or I don’t get to go on as many trips as other people or I should just be doing more in general. Your journey is your own and try not to get down just because other people appear “better off.” At the end of the day, we’re just some floating blobs, on a dust speck, worried about how much green paper we have.  In deep trench of the “funk” remember that everything can change in a second, good or bad, try not to over think it.

 

The Broke Girl’s Guide: Apartment Hunting in NYC

Finding an apartment back home was pretty easy-peasy. You go to the one closest to school, with the nicest pool of course and your dad pays your rent! It’s fab! Here, its difficult, difficult, lemon difficult. Those cool apartments with the nice pools are now like $4,000 a month and you live with 5 other people. Also, you have to make like at least 50K, send a letter from your work saying “hey she works here or whatever,” have good credit, and also give them your soul as collateral. Don’t wanna do that? Same! Now you’re gonna have to work to find a place and it is not fun.

My first time around looking for a place did not go as planned. I waited until about two weeks before I had to move before I started looking, first mistake. I would say you need to start looking AT LEAST 1 month before you wanna move, maybe even more. That’s the first tip:

  1. Start looking as early as possible in order to weed out the prison-cell-looking places and get something decent.

That’s the other thing I learned very quickly in NYC: people live in the scariest looking places for thousands of dollars a month. I can’t tell you how many places I walked into, just to walk right out and “nope” really hard. Everyone wants to be in this city, so people are basically willing to live anywhere. I, am a diva, and I like to live in a nice, cute spot that’s decorated and smells nice. Also, I don’t wanna pay over budget or live with 5 people and 1 bathroom. Sounds easy enough, right? Nope, guess again my naive friend! This is why I looked early.

Despite this, I still didn’t follow another very crucial rule:

2. If you find a place you actually like, jump on it immediately.

I found an amazing place that was basically a studio for amazingly cheap, but held back cause it was slightly more than I wanted to pay. Waited mere hours before taking it and someone had taken it immediately after seeing it. That’s the thing about NYC: shit moves FAST. If there’s an amazing place, chances are there’s at least 10 other people looking at it so lock it down if you love it. I’m still bitter I lost that place, low-key.

I read this one bloggers tips for finding a place and she couldn’t have been more out of touch (no offense). She suggested a bunch of sites like Street Easy and “just ask the doorman!” This is sound advice if you make 40x the rent of whatever your looking at, have a roommate already (or living with your S/O) or if you have someone to co-sign. I had none of these being that I don’t make a lot, I knew about 3 people and none of them were looking to move and my dad doesn’t live in New York and for some reason that’s sketchy and they don’t want you. My next tip would be:

3. Join Facebook groups that post apartments for sublease, they’re probably your best resource for good places.

I used Gypsy Housing to find the place I have now. Craigslist is also a good source. Unlike in the South, its not a sketch-zone and you usually get normal people just trying to sell stuff. You do have a few sketchy people on any site, I won’t lie, but go with your gut. If something feels off, don’t sign or give anyone any money.

I’ve now lived in three different apartments in less than a year and one of the most important things I learned was this:

4. Find a place you feel comfortable, not just somewhere to sleep.

This can be pretty hard in the city, considering you never really know what you’re gonna get with a place. My first place here was one I definitely couldn’t wait to get out of, so I’m glad it was just an Airbnb. Try to find a place you can make your own, and people who don’t drive you insane to live with.

My moral here: NYC is a stressful city. It’s loud, cold half of the time, smells weird and people are everywhere. You have to have somewhere that you can relax, de-stress, and curl up in a head blanket with a cookie when times are rough. It can take some time to find it, but it’s worth investing in.