I Don’t Even Have a “Pla” Year-aversery!

One whole year of blogging went so fast! I had no idea what would come of this when I started it a year ago, but I can 100% say that I would not be where I am right now if I had never started. So crazy how many people actually read this and follow my attempt at being an adult after college.

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Cant believe this picture is over a year old. Really wanna cut my hair again after seeing this (my hair really just needs to be cut in general)

Some parts of this year has been rough (bold for emphasis). The winter was the worst and I felt really weird and moody for a lot of it. Doing this was sort of my own personal self-care and I definitely have gotten out of this what I put into it. Moving here, I knew it would be hard, but I had no idea how it would feel. I put pressure on myself to be doing certain things and spent too much energy worrying about where my life was going and feeling bad about it not looking like I wanted it to. Through all of that craziness, this has been my constant. I’m just now starting to get in my groove of this whole big city life and feeling like I have some clarity career-wise. Reminder that doing scary things might not always feel super stellar, but they are so very worth it!

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One of my very first pictures (I learned to use instagram stories to edit them and lets just say I liked it a lot)

When I first thought about my blog, I just wanted to share food, clothes and beauty stuff that I liked. I was so worried about this being “too personal” because I thought, Who wants to read about me and my life? The dumbest thing I did was doubt myself. I didn’t want to advertise that I was writing a blog, I didn’t want anyone reading it and judging me, which is inevitable no matter what you do. I took myself out of my comfort zone so much this past year and it has paid off dramatically. Recently, I’ve been taking my blog to a more personal level and the feedback has been amazing! Of course I will still be doing my regular fun posts and any NYC advice I have, but I definitely want to share more about my life in the next year.

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One of my first ever “blogger” pics. Still love that outfit

I was trying to think of any advice I had for anyone starting a blog and I can really only think of one thing:

Just start

I spent to much time worrying about people reading it and making it “good,” that it took me forever to even start. Don’t put so much pressure on it that you never even start. It doesn’t have to be perfect, ground-breaking or “important,” it just needs to show people you put some thought and personality into something you love. Reading my very first post is very surreal. Honestly, I still think its funny and cute and maybe I’ll start doing those things-i-love-this-week posts again (even though not a lot of people read those).

^^^(probably the funniest thing     thats ever happened to me)

I would also recommend utilizing Instagram in partner with your blog. I’m gonna get a ‘lil sappy real quick, but I have met some truly amazing girls just interacting on Instagram. Just reaching out to people telling them how cool you think they are might feel super weird, but thats how I’ve made many of the friends I have now.  The three girls you always see me with? Met them through Instagram and would not know what the heck I would be doing right now if I didn’t know them (crying? being lonely? caught up on all tv shows in existence because I’d have nothing else to do?). So much of the criticism of social media is that it’s all very fake and you lose the ability to interact with people. So I try my hardest not to keep it all surface-based and be as honest as i can about my life.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is if you’re even sort of thinking about starting a blog or writing, DO IT. It has changed my life and I cannot wait to see where I’ll be in my second year of blogging!

 

 

A Definitive Argument For Being “Picky”

 

I have been what normal people would classify as “single” basically my entire existence (save for about 4 horrifying months which I’m just not even gonna count anymore). However, I was “dating” my entire college life and it was less than enjoyable if you can guess. “Dating” I would classify as anyone you spend time with, hook-up with on a regular basis and/or drunk cry about when they don’t text you back after a certain amount of months. My college existence was an endless cycle of this. Meet a guy, go out with him, meet his friends, get invested, and fizzle into nothing more than a sad thought after too much vodka. Then, start all that all over again with some other dude. My mom would always say, “It’s because you’re too picky! A guy doesn’t have to be super hot!” Those words stuck in my mind every time I thought, “okay I don’t like this about him maybe we shouldn’t talk anymore.” My mom’s voice would come into my head and so, I resolved to stick it out. “Give him a chance” and “you’re too picky” is the shady form of “this guy likes you so you should date him even if you don’t like him because you might not ever get someone to like you again” Which is a terrifying thing to a woman, I mean, how do we survive if there isn’t a guy who likes us? No one has ever claimed that men are too picky and single, they’re just “bachelors sewin’ their wild oats,” or whatever. Guys are some of the most picky people on the planet and yet, I don’t see anyone claiming they need to change.

There’s a lot of pressure, as a single person, to be actively trying to date someone. So much so, that there’s a market for it, hence dating apps. Since moving here, men are everywhere and nowhere, simultaneously. Supposedly, there are millions of men in New York City, and I’ve yet to discover a single decent male I didn’t have to first meet on a dating app. Working in fashion meant I saw about 2 humans of the male variety, all of which, are gay. That means, if I want to meet someone I have to meet them either randomly (coffee shop, gym, subway?), at a bar or on a dating app. My preferred method has been the apps. Easiest and fastest way to meet people and not having to be on “patrol” for guys everywhere I go. Dating apps are the one place where you can embrace your “picky.” Weird picture? Bye. He’s only 5’6″? Nope. Then you start to weed through a lot of guys really fast and you think “well maybe height isn’t a huge deal” or “yeah he lives in Jersey and I live in Brooklyn but it could work!” Why are you forcing yourself to sacrifice all the things you want in a guy just because it’s taking a hot second to actually find it? I’ve been with some guys who have been the absolute worst just to, “give them a chance,” and at the end of it I just thought, “Why did I even waste my precious time?” Women have been crucified for having a check-list for the perfect dude so much that we now have to just date whoever comes along. Yes, sometimes you can find things in people you never saw coming, but wasting energy on people you have no interest in is, well, a waste. I wouldn’t say the guys I actually liked checked all my invisible “boxes,” but the things I would sacrifice in order to just date someone were readily available in other people if I would’ve just chilled the F out for a few months. So often we settle for “fine” because it’s comfortable in a relationship. You like them, but something is off, and you stay because you don’t want to have to start all over with someone else. Relationships are fun, but also should be exciting and way more than just “fine.”

Doing a quick Google search about being picky in a relationship can yield a plethora of articles about how to “fix” it. I get it; don’t be picky because you could also miss a great guy! I think we just get too lonely and next thing you know, the list goes totally out the window just so we can stop feeling so horrible about being single. What I’m trying to say is, don’t throw out your checklist. Remember the episode of Friends where Chandler resolves to not be picky anymore and goes out with the girl who has the weird nostrils and stick it out with the girl who has mascara goop in her eyes? Guess what, he should’ve left those girls in the dust because at the end of the day, they weren’t right for him and truned out to be real weirdos. One of them left him locked up to a desk with no pants on.  Fictional example, but it holds up. Embrace being picky about who you date and spend time with, no matter how old you get, how long you’ve been single or how many holidays you have to say “Yep, still single and picky.”

 

This Week’s Vibes

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Beauty¡

Carli Bybel Deluxe Edition @ bh Cosmetics $22.50

Okay so I found this God sent highlighter palette literally just looking at a random beauty bloggers Instagram and I was like zaaammmmnnnn. Then I saw the price and I was like ZAMMMMMMMMMNNNNNN!!!!!! (just so ya’ll know I looked for it on Amazon and its double the price bye). It took me a while to get on the highlighter bandwagon because I always felt too shiny and overdone, but ya girl is on the wagon now. Beep beep look at that highlight¡¡¡ okay I’m done. 

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Style¿

Tassel Earrings  on Etsy $9.99

Tassel earrings have been a growing trend lately and, as with most trends and with me cause I’m stubborn, I was hesitant. But after wearing them for a day I’m pretty much in love. The ones I’m wearing are some we have in the boutique where I work. They run around 24 bucks BUT!! I found them for 10 BUCKS on Etsy!!! And they have a crap ton of great colors and mis-matched colors. I also found these more circular ones that are super cute for only 15! Bargains on Bargains

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The Bags Under My Eyes are Designer @ Shein $10.00

Cuffed Distressed Denim Shorts @ Forever 21 $19.90

Canvas Plimsolls @ Forever 21 $10.90

Layered Beaded Chocker @ Forever 21 $10.90

I was on Instagram the other day, just like going through my explore page, and I saw this suuuppeerrr classy outfit from this random girl that I really wanted to copy (as seen above). Her outfit also included a white blazer (which I didn’t have at the time) but I love this outfit so so much as a cute casual outfit that steps up your style game without looking too fancy (imo). No idea how much her’s cost but lucky for you guys!!! Mine is super cheap! My shirt is from Shein (which I know is a weird site that can kinda be a hit or miss with clothes but they have reviews and mine just happened to work out), but unfortunately they don’t have my exact shirt anymore so here’s another really cute one that could work. My shorts and shoes are Forever 21 and adding a statement necklace really brings the whole thing together (I’m linking this one, but the one in the picture is just borrowed from work, hah). This entire outfit is a grand total of a little over 50 bucks, which in my humble opinion is pretty fricken good considering just shoes can cost that much.

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Foodies¡

The Candy Cup Special @ The Big Chill

No healthy food post, this week we livin’ our best lives. I found these super crazy sno cones right in my area thank u lord. They have candy ones and cheesecake oreo ones, its insane. If you’re in Breaux Bridge Louisiana, or passing through like me, check ’em out they are delish. I mean look at all that candy¡

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FitFam¡¿

Oblique Killer Workout Rebecca Louise on Youtube

I branched out a little bit this week and tried another new video and it was a success! I have tried a few of her videos before, but this one realllly killed my obliques and for some reason this week I was really trying to kill my abs. I definitely recommend using her videos although her newer ones seem to work better for me. Apparently I like the Aussies since my last post was featuring and Australian too??? They know their fitness what can I say.

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Entertainment¡

Friends From College on Netflix

I know we’re all shocked I’m watching wayyyyyy too much Netflix these days. But anyway, I was kinda on the fence about this show at first cause #cantrelate to 40 year old struggles. Its about them all getting back together after moving away after college and its a huge mess of course. The scene that sold me though, is the one where Max doesn’t pay attention in any of the meetings at his office for like 6 months and its pretty fricken funny (spoiler alert?). Honestly Fred Savage (Max) and Jae Suh Park (Marriane) make this whole show (which helps the fact that the girl who played Robin in the God awful show “How I Met Your Mother” is in it and she’s as annoying as ever).

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Girls In White Dresses on Amazon $5.99

This book I really liked because it’s all about the confusing crap I’m going through right now as a 20-something. From awkward baby showers (cause you have no babies) to figuring out what to do in a job you hate but also have no idea what you should do instead (aka me sorta).

 

 

 

22, a Know-It-All and Stubborn AF

The hardest period in life is one’s twenties. It’s a shame because you’re your most gorgeous, and you’re physically in peak condition. But it’s actually when you’re most insecure and full of self-doubt. When you don’t know what’s going to happen, it’s frightening. -Helen Mirren 
About a year ago, I was in New York City for an internship at a Publishing company. Overall, the actual internship was relatively boring, so much of it was just sitting around waiting for someone to tell me to do something. On my lunch breaks, I would sit outside in Union Square Park every day and eat my sad fruit in a small container. I seethed with envy at all the fashionable twenty-something women with their freshly purchased salads that reeked of a ridiculously lavish disposable income (although I was simply just assuming since, hello, who the hell can afford to buy a salad every single day? in New York City???). Considering my internship paid me a big fat bowl of nada, I was forced to choose between chips or dry shampoo. Band-aids to cover the blisters from walking EVERYWHERE? I’m splurging.
As my internship was winding down in August, I was on the phone with my mother tearfully telling her how much I just wished I could stay there instead of going back to school. I assumed I was oh so ready to be done with it and couldn’t wait to be just like these girls whom I assumed had it all (and also because I had found out my scholarship would no longer be funded and had not a single clue how I was going to pay for my senior year).
Flashforward to me coming back for my last year at LSU. I can’t tell you how good it felt to be back where I could spend money and not live in a two-inch box with no one, really, to talk to. My senior year was, without a doubt, my best year at LSU. I finally felt like I had a good group of friends, I knew my shit when it came to school, and it felt like I was comfortable where I was going in my life. I told anyone who would ask where I wanted to go (New York) and what I wanted to do (Publishing). I couldn’t wait to graduate and be done with college and school work. On to the real world where there’s no homework and you get paid full-time!
Ever hear that stupid, annoying, saying that goes something like, “life happens when you’re making other plans?” My dad said that to me once after I told him my plans and I laughed in his face like I was the one who knew better. Well ha-ha to myself because life happened and things (not surprisingly) didn’t go like I thought they would. The job I thought I would have until I decided to move suddenly wasn’t scheduling me enough and I was worried about how much money I would have saved by the time I actually wanted to move. On my downtime, which was more often than I wanted, I applied to every Publishing company I could think of and for every job I thought I would even almost qualify for, to no avail. I revamped my resume three times, wrote a new cover letter (with help from my mom) and then wrote ANOTHER one, catering to each different company while also appealing to a more creative side of myself, to no avail.
As my timeline started getting pushed further and further, I took a hard, long, stressful, look at myself and what I really wanted out of life. Would it really be so awful if I didn’t go to New York? Why was I so adamant about being there? There’s a part of me that thinks staying in the South is a form of cruel and unusual torture and that only boring people stay here. I wanted more out of life than just staying in one place forever, never really moving anywhere else. I love New York and hope to maybe live there one day, but a part of me only wanted to move there to prove something to the people in my past who thought I wasn’t good enough. The other half of me put a ridiculous amount of pressure on myself to be successful immediately so it wouldn’t look like I got an English degree for nothing.
Something that I hate, hate, hate¡¡¡ about myself is my knee-jerk reaction to turn my nose up at certain things thinking I know myself completely at 22 and could never write or live in this certain place etc. I tend to lose sight of things that would make me happy because I assume immediately that I would hate them. Truth? I’m changing a lot and I’m only 22 and there’s a lot of stuff I’m trying to figure out at this weird stage in my life. This blog was inspired by my realization that I don’t actually have it all figured out, and the things I want change OFTEN. I’ve found that writing is something I actually really enjoy and it took me until now to figure that out. Who knows what the hell else I don’t know about myself! I’ve still got like 80 years left to figure it out (that sounds like a long time to live but I eat salad, like, a lot and I run like 4 times a month AT LEAST)! It’s nice to have plans for life as I still try to do, but in the meantime I’m trying to be cool with just a “pla” for my life. Maybe see where that takes me and focus more on, ya know, doing that thing I hear people talking about called being happy!

Things to Love This Week

 

Beauty¡

Que Bella® Masks @ Target $1.99

So I found these gems one day looking at the bubble bath section of Target one day. I figured I’d just try a couple cause they were super cheap and I also felt boujee  special cause I was taking french and knew what que bella meant. I’m picturing these two because these are the ones I just got, but my favorites are the Aloe Vera Deep Cleansing Mask and the Cherry Apricot Exfoliator Cleanser .    

Revlon® Ultra HD Matte Lip Color  @ Target $7.19

I actually have two of these, this one being a more nude color and this super vibrant red! They both have some awesome staying power, so cheap and easy to use. These are great for people like me who only really wear lipstick if they’re trying to be super •Extra• going out, but also are not gonna remember to keep checking it cause it holds up all night  (sans kissing tho;) ). 

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Style¿

Neck Scarf @ Target $5.99

I was hesitant about this whole tiny neck scarf revival trend (as I am with all weird trends *cough* tassels), but I really liked putting this one in my hair for a pop of color that matched my lips. Maybe Ill try one on my actual neck next time?? Here’s one I thought was cute from Target since the one I’m wearing I just cut out of an actual scarf whoops. 

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Foodies¡

Sriracha Sauce @ Target $2.99

*Technically* got this at the Dollar Store after I forgot to grab it at Target, which is typical, but I don’t even think they have a website and no clue how much it even was there (1 dollar????).  Anyway, this bottle will probably last me forever because I can only put 3 drops total on anything I eat, but it’s so good. Even with just 3 drops you can still really taste it. Here’s a link for the good stuff.

Flaxseeds @ Target $2.69

Okay I know it’s weird that I even included these cause they taste like literally nothing with a crunch, but¡¡¡¡¡¡ that’s the beauty of these babies, ya’ll. I put these in my oatmeal (like maybe a tablespoon) and I really feel a difference in my digestion. If you ever feel bloated and gross after a pizza weekend, I suggest this to *ahem* clean you out  *ahem* and restart ya health for the week. 

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Fitness¡¿

Sarahs Day on Youtube Frrreeeeeeeeee

I’m always trying to do different stuff with my workouts because I get bored easily, which means I get less motivated to do anything. I found Sarah’s Day as a suggestion from Youtube of junk I might like. I love love love her three 15 minute videos where she does the full workout with you in real time. I wish she had more of them, but unfortunately she mostly just shows you what she does in a gym in her other videos. I mostly prefer when someone does the workout in real time rather than just saying “do this 3 times for 30 seconds!” because usually I just do it twice and get bored. Some of the other videos say stuff like “do this video 4 more times!” and after the second time I’m like “oh no girl, bye I’m sick of this.” So in other words, I love when a video is a real workout in real time because I’m wayyyy less likely to stop a video in the middle. Here’s my favorite one of her 15 minute videos!

 

Entertainment¡

The Kept Woman Karin Slaughter on Amazon $15.17 (Paperback)

I just finished this book and wow. Not quiet as twisted as her Pretty Girls: A Novel, but still on the edge of your seat trying to figure out what the heck is going on. This one focuses on Will Trent, a detective for the Atlanta PD and his crazy relationship with ex-cop and crazy woman Angela Polanski. All the twists and turns definitely kept me going, which means I finished it in about one day. Then I came to realize I had skipped the entire Will Trent series and just read the ending without realizing it (ha who let me do this), I really didn’t have to have any prior info about the characters to understand the novel thank God.  

Sweat by The All-American Rejects 

Is it 8th grade again? 2009?? Nope, but The All-American Rejects came out with another banger anyway. This song definitely takes me back to my angsty middle school alternative rock days (cause who wasn’t angsty at 13 for no reason?). Just listen to feel the nostalgia

Once Upon A Time on ABC

I started watching this show the second it came out and love loved it. It’s all about this woman who is found by her son she gave up for adoption, who tries to convince her she’s the daughter of Snow White and Prince Charming. Sounds kinda off the wall, but as a child of fairy-tales and Harry Potter, I loved it. After a while they started introducing Elsa and Anna from frozen and I did a huge *eye roll* and stopped watching. But seriously, the first few seasons are great, but after that ehhh. 

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Spllluuurrrgggeeeeeeee™

NARS The Multiple @ Sephora $39.99

So holy heck I didn’t know this thing was this expensive until I looked it up, sheesh. I got this on a whim/ Sehpora haul and didn’t think anything of it. This is why I always get up to the register and have to suppress my cringe face every time they read me my total. When I first got this I hated it. I couldn’t figure out how to make it go where it wanted it to go and I’d end up just rubbing it off. I finally just put it in a spot and left it and realized I actually loved it highlighter look of it. Definitely a splurge, but should last a while since the stick is huge and I only use a couple swipes. 

Un-success of the week√

Love Sweat Fitness on YouTube

As I said before, I love trying new things when I workout. Something I started doing a few months ago, sort of as a revamping of my health and fitness, was Barre classes. At the time, the studio I was going to was fairly new, so they had free classes a lot. I couldn’t keep paying for the classes (the monthly fee was like 100 bucks) so I had to find other alternatives. When I saw Love Sweat Fitness’s Lower Abs Barre Bootcamp , I was like awesome I love barre! Unfortunately this was a super-easy beginners workout that basically did nothing for my abs (which are pretty strong I might add). That’s not to say all of her workouts are like this, I will definitely be trying them again! This one was a definite miss.