The Faint of Heart Need Not Apply

I will admit, it took me way too long to write this post.

Not because I’m just so busy (hah), but because I’m always grappling with how much I want to share on here. I’m gonna spoil it for you: this post isn’t necessarily all rainbows and happy-fun-times, which is why it took me so long to write/post. I have to silence the introvert part of my brain that says “OVERSHARE! OVERSHARE! NO ONE WANTS TO KNOW THIS MUCH ABOUT YOU!!! She is very loud and irrationally scared of being judged. As usual, she must be silenced in my quest for true transparency.

It is, although it may not seem like it, hopeful.

A few weeks ago, I had a very important meeting about a job. Not just your run-of-the-mill J-O-B, but something I wanted to do very badly. Let me emphasize that: I wanted this job VERY, VERY BADLY. Enough? Oh man, I thought about it and did all the things to prepare for it. I was determined. I went to the interview and despite being 10 minutes late because of the train and sweaty, I killed it. Not tooting my own horn, I really did. Have you ever gone to an interview where you not only wanted the job, but would put every ounce of passion and determination behind it if you got it? You know you deserve this job, you just have to convince this person, who is not you, that you should get it over anyone else that’s probably equally good if not better. Easy, right?

Afterward, I started doing all the things I thought I would be doing, had I gotten the job. I did all of the things those “self-help” books tell you to do if you want something; act like you already have it. So I did, and I waited. And waited. Just so you know, applying for jobs is a lot of just waiting for people to get back to you. Finally, after a week of waiting I had my answer and it was No. Not literally just an email with the word “no” in bold, that would be horrifying. In different words, but a “no” all the same. So I have my very first soul-crushing “no” under my belt, officially. Am I upset? Yes. Will I be okay? 1,000,000% yes. Mostly because I had already gone through the 7 stages of grief even before I heard back, but also because I will not be stopped. Say that out loud to the all-powerful-universe and tell me that doesn’t give you the chills a little.

This month has been one of the best, but most uncomfortable I’ve ever been. I’ve had to reach out to people, follow up with people, bug people and even message people on Instagram in hopes it will get me where I want to be. I don’t have a clear idea of what that means, but I do know that the things that I’ve been doing lately are getting me there. Therefore, I will not be stopped. As the beautiful and talented Shonda Rhimes said,

Ditch the dream and be a doer, not a dreamer. Maybe you know exactly what it is you dream of being, or maybe you’re paralyzed because you have no idea what your passion is. The truth is, it doesn’t matter. You don’t have to know. You just have to keep moving forward. You just have to keep doing something, seizing the next opportunity, staying open to trying something new. It doesn’t have to fit your vision of the perfect job or the perfect life. Perfect is boring and dreams are not real. Just … do. So you think, “I wish I could travel.” Great. Sell your crappy car, buy a ticket to Bangkok, and go. Right now. I’m serious.

You want to be a writer? A writer is someone who writes every day, so start writing. You don’t have a job? Get one. Any job. Don’t sit at home waiting for the magical opportunity. Who are you? Prince William? No. Get a job. Go to work. Do something until you can do something else. -Dartmouth Commencement Speech 2014

I highly recommend her book as well, The Year of Yes. I’m trying my very hardest to be a doer, not just a dreamer. I can, I will and eventually say “I did.”

 

The Sunday Vibes Live at 5

This week is all about vegan mayo so good I could eat off the floor, interval fasting??, bauble bar earring look a likes, scary movies?? and the Aly & AJ come back

Also will I never decide on a title for these things?? Nope

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Beauty¡

Sally Hansen Miracle Gel in Spice Age @ Target $7.19

Secrets time: I never not have my nails done. Sometimes they’re chipped or whatever, but if i have nothing on them? Assume I’ve been body snatched. I picked this baby up at Target and its gorgeous. I usually don’t worry too much about brands when it comes to nail stuff I just go for the colors I like, I like using glittery colors for accent nail (or nails if I’m feeling sãssy).

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Style¿

Linear Fabric Ball Drop Earrings @ Express $15.00

So for my birthday, I really wanted some Bauble Bar earrings sort of as a treat yo self because they’re like 50 bucks for one pair. Luckily, I decided to get my outfit first and spotted these at Express! Literally exactly what I was looking for only $24! AND they are having a sale on jewelry right now so they’re $15 right now! So naturally I got black and grey cause why not? Don’t spend $50 on earrings if you don’t have to am I right ladies.

 

Foodies¿

Sir Kensington’s Fabanaise Chipotle Mayo @ Whole Foods $8.00

OKAY IF YOU READ NOTHING ELSE IN THIS WHOLE BLOG JUST READ THIS!!!! I have found the holy grail. It was located in Whole Foods right next to work all innocent and harmless looking and it has now taken over my life. Bought this literally on a whim just to try it because I love chipotle mayo. I have now put it on: a veggie burger, my kale salad, literally just dipped cherry tomatoes in it, a grilled cheese, and my finger. I really don’t know how this stuff is vegan and yet so amazing but I decide not to question it. All the ingredients you can read and pronounce, nothing weird or sketchy. I have never been so happy about being vegan. Seriously gets because no one is paying me to say its this good.

 

Fitness¿¡

So I wanted to talk about something I’ve been doing for almost a year now which is called interval fasting. I started last spring semester simply because my class schedule was so crazy in the morning that I just didn’t have time to eat and hated eating in front of  people in class or scarfing it down in my car right before class, so I just waited till around 12 to eat everyday. Then I learned there was an actual term for that. I find it really helps my body restart in the morning when I just drink a bunch of water and then have coffee before I eat anything. The most important part is to have water and a lot of it in the mornings just to sort of clear your head for the day. I like doing and definitely recommend. I also usually stop eating at 8pm which means I only eat for about 8 hours. I tend to go to bed around 10 so this really helps me digest everything before I sleep! Definitely recommend trying this if you’re trying to be a little healthier and kinder to your body!

 

Entertainment¡

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1922 on Netflix

So maybe I’ve been listening to too many podcasts about crime and murderers but now it has migrated to me watching movies about it too. I’m actually loving all of these Stephen King movies so maybe I should start reading his books now? This one was about a man who kills his wife with the help of his son in order to stay in the farm life and not move to the city of Omaha. Tbh I would also have to resort to murder if I was being forced to move to Omaha but thats just me. Very creepy would recommend.

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Get Out on HBO GO

So I tried to see this when it came out but the movie was sold out and I never visited it again cause I really never go to the movies anyway. I saw it was on HBO Go and could not resist watching it since it has fabulous reviews. It did not disappoint at all. The symbolism behind it was very spot on and just a fantastic movie. A must see for sure.

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Ten Years EP by Aly & AJ

Since the release of their single i have been patiently waiting for their album release and this week they released an EP! Their sound has definitely changed a lot since they last put any music out, but not in a bad way at all. Overall just a chill few songs so I’m waiting for them to put out another jam like Take Me.

Katie Does NYC Things

Kept it pretty low-key this weekend after all the craziness of last weekend so I didn’t do too much.

 

Saturday I discover the target in tribeca which is almost as good as the one back home (almost). Ended up getting the cutest little tree for the apartment so I’m gearing up for Christmas and skipping Thanksgiving cause ick. One of my friends moved to Financial District so we went out to celebrate. I tried this club Bowery Electric and maybe I’m just not into the club scene without a promoter cause it was very blah. They also wouldn’t let you in a certain area without paying 10 dollars which is so unnecessarily boujee. I mean what if I go up there and its not even fun? Might as well light 10 bucks on fire. Thankfully I spent my 10 dollars at Prince street pizza instead which was a way better use of my money cause that pizza was amazing. I think its famous???? cause there were a bunch of celebrity pictures up. I didn’t appreciate the judgment when I ordered 3 pieces of pizza but I GUESS I’ll go back despite my shame because it was so good.

My 22nd Year

In case you haven’t heard, I turned 23 this week. Like woah. I feel like it’s one of those weird ages where people say “omg so young” but also just paid my credit card bill with birthday money, (it honestly burned my “treat yo self” loving soul a little bit), so I’m not thaaaattt young and carefree. Honestly curious how old I have to become before people stop commenting on how young I am. I feel like probably 30. I’ll just immediately transform into a business woman with 2.5 kids and mortgage.

Every year, I always think back to where I was at this time last year and refer and assess if I have actually learned anything this year. From last year at this time to this year there has been so many changes and adjustments and realizations in my life that I feel like I’m 5 years older and not just one. I have worked pretty hard to get where I am, typing this, both physically and mentally.

Here are some of the craziest/weirdest/best things I did this year:

  • Got my first job in retail in order to save more money

I knew I needed to get a job that paid me more than 200 bucks a month (that was on a good month where I went everyday that I could), so I decided retail would be okay. I’m so very glad I did because this basically got me the job I have now and who knows what I would be doing if I hadn’t made that decision. 

  • Stopped letting dudes ruin my fun times

It took 22 years, but I finally decided to stop caring about dudes and my need to be talking to someone all the time just because I’m bored. I let a guy run me rampant for months right before my second semester and then I got to feel stupid and manipulated. I vowed right then, I will not let a guy make me feel stupid for giving him my energy and I have yet to feel that way again. Not saying I have in any way figured out my love life at all, but at least I’m not wasting my time. 

  • Decided Veganism might not be the stupidest shit I’ve ever heard

What started out as a challenge between me and my roommate not to eat bread or sweets became a whole new lifestyle for me. Granted, I did watch a scary documentary about how gross meat is, but deciding to just see what happens has been pretty interesting. I’ve made brownies with zucchini that tasted like heaven and gotten to try a lot of food that I usually would turn my nose up at. I’ll still never be that health bitch that’s like “I only crave nuts and berries!!!!!” but balance is key right? Yolo?

  • Realizing I don’t need a gym to stay fit, but utilizing it when I got it

I’ve taken so many awesome and fun classes at the UREC because I was privileged enough to get them for free while in school. It’s really helped me figure out what I like in workouts and what I don’t. Unfortunately, this is not the case now that I’ve graduated, moved and don’t really have a gym close enough to where I live. It was super hard trying to get up and workout before work when I started my new job since I wasn’t used to being up so early. Thankfully, I found some amazing workouts on Youtube for free and got figured out what works for me, not just what I think I should be doing or how long I have to do it for. 

  • Doing shit because I wanted to, not because it made sense or I had everything that came after, planned out

I have been privileged enough to be able to make decisions about my life that were suuupperrrr spontaneous and not very well thought out. This past year, I quit a job because it was literally causing me stress every single day, to the point where I didn’t do anything but work and school. I decided that that was not how I wanted to spend my last semester of college, so I left and never looked back. Thinking about it now, I’m so very glad I did that because I had the best spring semester I could’ve asked for, and I managed to make the Dean’s List (for once). Obviously also me moving my whole life to NYC and getting a big girl job but I talk about that enough. 

 

And last but not least, I started this whole blogging journey. Still don’t really know what I’m doing with this thing but I’m doing something I guess! I honestly really enjoy writing it even if only 3 people actually pay attention to it. Overall, this 22nd year of my life has been wild, but definitely one of the best yet (if not the best).

Here’s more highlights in pictures for fun:

Got the love of my life, my greyson, my boos butt, my poop and my heart. 

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Took a candid picture at Christmas that was probably the cutest picture I’ll ever take

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Crashed a wedding with my best friend and had the most fun

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Wore green lipstick and it changed my life

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Drunk girls are the best don’t fight me on this.

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Had a professional take pictures of me and didn’t really know what to do with myself 

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Got to visit my shnookum pop in Nashville and fell in love with a city that wasn’t New York

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Got to meet this dog!!! All dogs are important. Also this was just a really nice day with friends

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GRADUATED. Nbd

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Watched my best friend get married and tore up the dance floor(honestly if your face don’t look like that when you dance then you’re not doing it right)

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After 4 years of going to Fred’s I finally made it onto their FB page

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Hauled my butt to Bushwhack after some crazy flights

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Got me a professional 9-5 working for the MAN job.

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And drank WAYYYYYYYYYYYY too much coffee at really cute coffee houses

The Vibes Weekly

Alright baby I’m back with a vengeance, I am on time this week! And! I did some cool stuff okay.

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Beauty¡

Your Skin But Better CC+ Cream It Cosmetics @ Sephora $15.00 (small size)

Being totally real guys, I haven’t bought anything from Sephora in like, months. The issue is I spend way more than I want to every single time and so it’s better to never go in there at all. However, I was running out of Tinted Moisturizer and I really needed to stop jamming my brush into the bottle to get the last drop. So I went. I got a new tinted moisturizer since I said I would try to find something that wasn’t mf 45 bucks a bottle which is admittedly insane. Iv’e been hearing really good things about this one, I know its only like 7 dollars cheaper but my brain makes a huge jump from 30 to 40 okay!!!!!!!! And I got the tiny 15 dollar bottle. Anyway, another blogger named Katie (hay) recommended it, it won an Allure award for readers choice and has fab reviews from the Sephora website. So I bought both light and medium, but ultimately went with medium to match my self-tanner (lol).

Heres what both colors looked like on my skin:

Heres before and afters of my skin:

 

Tbh? Not super impressed. I like it, but its really not very different from what I was already using. The coverage looks to be about the same as NARS and feels about the same. I will say it is cheaper, so definitely worth checking out. I’m not going crazy about it since I still have to use coverup and I also wouldn’t say I’m necessarily using less of it either.

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Style¿

H&M Gray Knit Top @ H&M $24.99

H&M Stovepipe Pants @ H&M $29.99

Faux Nubuck Pointed toe Pumps @ Charlotte Russe $19.79

I tried so hard this week to spice up my outfits and failed horribly lol. I really need a full length mirror cause I gotta start checking myself cause I am wrecking myself (self confidence wise). Buuuutttttt, I managed to get it right once this week so of course I documented it. I got so many compliments on my shoes, but I’m gonna be honest. THEY HURT SO BAD. I actually squealed in pain when I took them off at the end of the day. To be fair though, I’ve only worn them one other time. I cent tell if I still have to break them in, or just chuck them and call it a day. I’ll keep you updated. But they really are so cute. Also while looking for these on the Charlotte Russe website I realized they got some cute ass shoes. This top, is like my new favorite. Its shiny and slouchy and love the new sleeve detail trend so so much. Anndddd its on sale!!!

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Foodies¿¡

Daiya Vegan and Dairy Free Cheesecake @ Wholefoods

I keep going to whole foods after work, starving, so I keep buying weird snack stuff. This required like 6 hours of defrosting for some reason, but I just left it on my counter for like an hour. Honestly, would recommend. It exactly like a cheesecake like if I didn’t have the box, I wouldn’t know the difference. So if you’re looking for a substitute, definitely recommend!

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Fitness¡

Pop sugar Fitness on Youtube

I would like to proudly state that I worked out everyday this week thank you very much. I got on a kick of these popsugar fitness videos because they have a bunch of quick HITT workouts. I recommend just checking out the whole youtube channel, but my favorite is the one I’ll link here. Quick and really burns some serious calories!

Entertainment¡

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Mind hunters On Netflix

I started watching this because lately i’ve been obsessed with serial killers (in a totally normal not gonna be the next serial murderer kinda way), mostly because of my favorite murder. I liked the overall concept and it was pretty good, but the end of it was kinda, ehh. I was waiting for some big blow up or like something really crazy to happen and it was just, oh okay that was a little weird. Kinda bummed but I will definitely stay tuned for the next season whenever that will be.

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Tear You Apart She Wants Revenge

So I decided to post about this song because Halloween vibezzzzz even though its old. I heard it first when I watched American Horror Story: Hotel (which is the best one don’t fight me on this), and the whole time its playing theres like a super gore-y murder going on but its such a bop. You think the song is actually about murder, but its really just about a dude having s crush on a girl (which tbh is pretty scary).

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The Girl Before by J.P Delaney 

This book was freakyyyy. Its about two different girls who go through a traumatic event in their lives, and move into this really crazy, high tech, minimal house. One of the girls dies in the house and then the other girl moves in and then all these strange similar things happen to the new girl in the house. I’m explaining it so bad but its good I promise. Plot twists throughout, but like a weird sad ending.

NYC Weekend Adventures™

So this weekend I went to a lot of cool bars!

Friday I finally experienced Mr. Purple, which sounds like some sort of trashy creep zone overtime I say the name of it out loud. It has a pretty awesome rooftop, although one drink is 17 dollars?? Since there’s no bag check, I suggest bringing a flask if you trying to have fun and not go broke. Next, was Beauty and Essex. The font is like a weird music room and then they open the doors to like this dark, staircase room. It just screams classy and sultry. I wish I had taken pictures of it, but also don’t wanna look like a dweeby tourist (I’m sure I’ll be back soon though). Also note the music was awesome, which means I was having fun even though I was kinda sober by then.

OOO I also went and got this baby:

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It looked as good as it actually was, no lie. I got the seasonal spice flavor and damn was it good. 10/10 would recommend.

Saturday, we tried to do spooky Halloween bar crawl but the universe was not having it. Every place was having some sort of halloween thing, we needed tickets for which is annoying. One place went to literally said “oh its $175 dollars but it’s open bar and theres a burlesque show and a really awesome DJ” and I was like honey, do you have an idea how much I would need to drink for that to be worth it?? G-bye. So we ended up just going to random bars and looking at all the people in their costumes. We went to this one place called KeyBar and it was pretty cool, but then this british guy who was having an existential crisis kept talking to us. Saying shit like “oh I’m more than my accent” and “you’re getting drunk because you’re trying to forget something.” I literally said to him at one point “Dude its not that deep..” I was over it. Tried to get into another bar that was supposedly laying cool 80s music but,  had a cover which is so dumb this aint Fred’s free drinks I refuse to pay cover with no benefits. Might as well light my money on fire. Finally just settled on a few bars that didn’t feel like we were in the armpit of NYC. I guess this sounds like more of an un-success but I still had fun so whatever.

 

Your (late) Weekly Vibessss

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So I moved again. This is now the third place I’ve lived in in the span of one month lol. Anyway, I went to a new coffee place to blog (gotta keep up the Carrie Bradshaw vibes). I picked this place simply because it was super cute and right between me and the laundry mat cause unfortunately I still gotta go somewhere and do my laundry ugh.

Anyway more on my life later, here are the vibes.

 

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Beauty¡

e.l.f. Contour Eye Brush @ Target $2.99

Sephora Contouring Brush @ Sephora $32.00

I wanted to touch a little bit on my contouring (how the hell do you spell that??) routine that I do. Now, I aint no pro, but I try my best and I got compliments on it so don’t listen to me if you don’t want to!!! But these are the things I use and the brushes. The smaller one I use for contouring my nose, which by that I mean I draw some lines down the sides of my nose and call it a day. I also use it for highlighter after my bronzer. The bigger brush I use for my bronzer. I just sorta squish it in a straight line to get more of a straight cut down the side of my cheekbones. Then, I just go around my cheek bones and little bit on my hair line and top of my forehead. Last is the highlighter which I put on the tip of my nose, top of my lip, cheek bones, top of my eyebrows and the bridge of my nose. Sometimes I just use gold or I use my pink and gold eyeshadow like blush (as seen in my look below). Here’s a before and after!

 

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Style¿

Sequin Sweater @ H&M $49.99

It got randomly super cold on Monday, so I had to break out my sweater gear (aka the two sweaters I have rn). I wore this to work and I got so many compliments on it?? Like out of the blue. It’s so cozy, cute and definitely has like an 80’s vibe to it? or maybe thats just me.

Slip-on Mule Loafers by LUSTHAVE on Amazon $24.99

I saw something similar to this on a boutique’s instagram and almost bought them. But then I realized I could probably get them for cheaper on Amazon and so I did lol. Blush is the new fall color (in case you’ve been living under a rock and didn’t know) and these are perfect. I wear so much back and these are great just the break it up and look like I know that other colors exist in the world.

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Foodies¡

Okay FORGET what I said about the last oatmeal I posted about, like g-bye, cause this one is 10,000 times better. I got the blueberry kind and I’m sorry but I can only find it at whole foods. It takes amazing and very filling while also being gluten free! ANNDDD it has flax seeds which are amazing for digestion. Only downside is I can only find it at whole foods. Sorry guys.

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Fitness¿¡

One of the hardest things about trying to stay in shape is getting up on the weekends and working out. My mind says “do it and you’ll feel better!” but my body says “sleep in and then eat cereal cause its Saturday and who cares.” Saturday I thankfully listened to my brain (although my body almost won) and worked out BEFORE my giant cappuccino. This workout was quick, but still kicked my butt which you guys know is my favorite thing. Not too much jumping and craziness either which is good because my place is small and I hate making a bunch of noise. One of the best things was when the girl was “like ugh I can’t go any faster” and I was like yes girl same #relatable. I burned about 150 calories according to my Apple watch in 20 minutes which is amazing.

 

Entertainment¡

Managed to watch and listen and read these past couple weeks so enjoy!!!

Wuthering Heights

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I started reading this because my cousin said it was her favorite book and tbh I need to read more classics but I finished it and was like ?????? thats it???? It’s probably one of these books you just really need to take a class on or something not just read and never look at again. I really only liked the Narrator and wish they would’ve gone a different direction with him, honestly. Everyone was whiny and mean because of Heathcliff making everyone sad and miserable. Not my thing.

Dirty John on Spotify 

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My coworker suggested this at work the other day and I LOVEEEEEDD it. It’s about this con man who’s super scary and manipulate women for money among other things and the end is just like woah. It’s only 6 episodes and I finished it in a day because it was amazing. It has real interviews from the people who experienced it which is so cool. Definitely recommend if you like crime or serial killers or just crazies fascinate you lol.

Gerald’s Game on Netflix

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I was attempting to get into the Halloween vibes the other day and stubbled across this while going through my Netflix. Its based off of a Stephen King book of the same name and it was actually really good and freaky without scaring the shit out of me like his stupid IT movies. Its about this woman whose husband handcuffs her to the bed and then proceeds to literally die on top of her which is now a fear of mine lol. It was really good and something I feel like I usually wouldn’t watch or something thats super well-known.

So last weekend I had to get anew phone because mine finally had enough of me dropping it. I got the iPhone 7 plus and I love it. The pictures are ah-mazing and its huge but in a good way. Saturday I got to look at what my life would be like if I made real people money here lol. My friend somehow got the keys to her bosses apartment since she’s out of town and her view and her bed and everything about this place was so cute. Then we went to this singles mixer which was funny cause it was mostly old weird dudes  of course. The only decent guy there was a British dude and I was VERRRY upset that some other girl had already claimed him. (he was only really cute in comparison to all the other weird-looking dudes). Don’t judge my arm idk why kept doing that in every picture sheesh.

Sunday I had to move out of my apartment and that was such a mess. I applied for a place that I guess rejected me? Still don’t even know. So I had to find a place literally on the fly. Ended up staying at an AirBnB that was so cute and quiet. I recommend for sure. Then from there I moved my stuff to my new place. It’s another temporary place, but its cheaper, nicer and I’m renting it for longer because I refuse to move my stuff again in the winter. Here’s a couple pics of my new place!

I’ll post some of my room once I get it cute and fixed cause all of my stuff is currently just on the floor(which only stresses me out a lot).

This weekend I tried some new places that were fantastic.

Friday, I had drinks at a place called Root and Bone. It’s in the East Village area and all through the month of October their happy hour proceeds benefit Puerto Rico with is cool. I got some really great wine and a chicken biscuit (not part of my vegetarian lifestyle lol).

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Also they opened a fricken Target on 34th street and so obviously I had to go immediately. Kind of a small Target but hey it’s still Target. I got some stuff to decorate for fall and this super good smelling candle and my cold, black, fall loving heart is swooning.

Saturday, I went to this place I’ve been wanting to try since I saw and Insider New York video about it and it looked amazing and good, We only managed to get a table cause some crazy people didn’t show up for their reservations (thank you so much random people). It was packed for a very good reason. The best Mac and Cheese I have ever had. Not even being dramatic. So amazing. One of those places I recommend hitting if you ever come to NYC. It’s right in the heart of Greenwich Village (which I have been pronouncing green-witch no joke how awful), and everywhere you walk is so cute I was in love and actually got lost just looking everywhere and missed my turn lol.

I also finally saw the High Line, which I’d been thinking is like a dinky bridge or something but its actually amazing. So many crazy looking buildings and some apartment goals. Another recommendation if you come here.

Next we went to Legends to watch LSU play and they kicked some butt. After a few hurricanes, we ended up going out to this place that kept playing like old 90’s and ’00 hits and I was jammin. We ended up staying out till 3:30 and I didn’t even notice the time until someone said something about it. Like I’m turing into a night owl somehow and its weird? I’m so used to being the first one to leave a bar, but NYC seems to have the opposite effect. So much fun.

I said this blog wasn’t gonna be a diary but look at me talking about my life like I’m important lol.

Advice on Adulting and Doing Scary Life Shit

As you’ll notice immediately from the title of this post, this is not your vibes for the week. I am very sorry. I will talk about my fun adventures and cool stuff maybe in the middle of this week? Idk. But anyway. If you’re only here for the vibes feel free to tune in next week….

I don’t know if any of you reading this has made a big move in their lives lately, but lemme let you in on a little secret………………………………………..

Its HARDDDDDDDDDDD. Especially living in a city where you know exactly 5 people and not really on the “take a bullet for me and let me fart in front of you” level (farting is also as important as a bullet). I’m used to living with my cousins whom I would do all of the above for and my mom being an hour away if I ever need anything. Up here, I have to fend for myself in a lot of ways I didn’t anticipate. So I wanted to do this post giving some tips/advice for anyone moving somewhere far away or just adulting and scared. Mostly NYC stuff cause that’s what I know.

First and foremost, just do it

One of my biggest struggles was actually making the decision to move and following through with it. I wanted to do it so so bad when I was actually in school, but then after I graduated, things got a little too real. I was stuck in the “planning for tomorrow and now tomorrow is today” and I got scared shitless, not gonna lie. I worried about money, if I would ever get a job, if i’d be lonely and sad, if I’d hate it up here, if I’d ever be able to come home again and if I should just move somewhere closer. Ultimately, New York has always been a goal of mine and I just got fed up with myself and within the span of 2 weeks, got a plane ticket, got a place and got outta town. It’s something you can’t overthink, you have to feel it and do it.

You have more stuff than you think and getting it all over there is gonna suck

Packing all of my stuff and moving up here was so sucky. I have way more stuff than I anticipated and it was soo stressful trying to decide what I really needed and what I could live without. My bags were all packed to the GILLS which stressed me out and they were HEAVY, which means getting my carryon out of the overhead bin was a struggle. To be honest though, I wouldn’t change it. I packed enough to where I had everything I needed and none of my luggage got lost, thank god.

DO NOT TRY AND GET AN APARTMENT IMMEDIATELY, I REPEAT, DO NOT

I seriously considered just getting an AirBnB for two weeks and then getting an apartment which is so very stupid and I’m glad I didn’t. If you’re moving to a place thats basically foreign to you and you can’t actually look at the apartments, do not try and get anything immediately. I got an Airbnb for a month and a half and it’s still a struggle trying to find an apartment. Honestly, that’s the most challenging thing for me. Explore areas you like and try to find places there. It also takes forever to get a place because they’re all over the city and working full-time while trying to look at places is craziness. Save yourself the trouble and just get something temporarily.

Dont buy too many groceries, you eat out more often than not

This is really just a New York thing, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve just bought meals because I was doing something till really late after work, or I didn’t have enough time to go home and grab something. Sometimes, it’ll take me an hour to get home from the city, so buying dinner is a necessity unless I wanna eat at 10pm. Whole Foods also just happens to be right next to my work, and they have buffalo cauliflower so in the end I’m eating better than I would at home, thank you.

Dude just take the damn Uber

I love the subway. It’s usually fast and it’s cheap. But sometimes, and I struggle with this, I should’ve just taken an Uber. For example when I wanna wear heels to brunch and everyone on the subway looks at me like I’m the lochness monster. Or when I’m moving my shit out of my apartment and I really can’t carry everything without making another trip. Or when you just really wanna ride in a nice car that’s quiet and doesn’t smell like pee and you don’t have to be around other people. Sometimes you just gotta stop being cheap and give yourself a break from the subway hustle.

 

Determination will get you everywhere

Living in New York can get pretty difficult. From basically getting hit by a car, to moving out of an apartment without a car, to finding out you’ve been walking the wrong way down a street for 30 minutes, this city can be stressful. It definitely has kept me on my toes. One thing that has got me through it is determination, plain and simple. I’ve wanted to be here since I can remember and the more time I spend in New York, the more I fall in love with it. I am determined to be in this place that I love more than I’m willing to let its hardships bring me down. You have to want it more than any of the bullshit the city and life are gonna throw at you whether its a job or an apartment or just trying to thrive. You have to want it, like really bad.

Sometimes your decisions are gonna have to be quick. They’re worth it

I’ve had to make some quick and stressful decisions this past couple months more than I ever have in my life. New York moves so fast and it can be hard to keep up, especially coming from the South. I love it, but it’s a crazy adjustment. You gotta hustle hard and just got with it. I’m not used to making decisions, especially big ones, on the fly. Take a breath and figure it out.

Support Support Support

Lastly, I would not and could not be where I am right this second without the support of my family and friends. Everyone has their own opinions about the decisions you make in your life. I had a bunch of people saying how crazy I was for moving up here with no job.  They were right of course and I knew it, but I had to go and find out for myself. However, I also had my fair share of support. Its the simple things like “wow you’re so brave that’s amazing” or when people get excited with you when you tell them about the cool adult thing you just did. I also wanna brag on my parents as well. My parents are amazing and have always supported anything and everything i have ever wanted to do. I can’t tell you how rad it feels when your mom says she’s proud of you or your dad taking care of something you just can’t do on your own. I’m so lucky to have amazing parents and friends who push me to do better and be better always. If you can support anyone doing anything scary or crazy, do it.

This probably goes without saying because ya’ll probably can tell from my posts but this crazy wild decision is the best one I’ve made in a long time. Right up there with going to LSU and buying that slice of pizza this morning.  It’s been a crazy month but it also feels like I’ve been here forever? Excited for the fun times to come.